Boundaries/Container
Chapter 5
A container without edges leaks.
A body without boundaries burns out.
You’ve been told boundaries are harsh.
Selfish.
Unkind.
But what if boundaries are softness?
What if they are how you honor your capacity?
What if the most loving thing you can say is:
“Not right now.”
You don’t need to earn rest.
You don’t need to explain your no.
You are not a bad person for having limits.
You are a wise one for knowing them.
Edges Are Invitations
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A ritual for holding your power, time and attention with intention.
Intended Use: To support boundary-setting in tender or high-stakes moments
Length: ~2.5 min
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Close your eyes.
Take a deep inhale.
And on your exhale, say:“No.”
Again—
“No.”Let it be quiet.
Let it be soft.
Let it be enough.You don’t need to sound angry to mean it.
You don’t need to explain.Now whisper:
“This no makes space for my yes.”Picture what your “yes” looks like:
Rest. Stillness. Safety. Room to grow.You are not rejecting anyone.
You are returning to yourself.Say it one more time, not as defense—
but as devotion:
“No.”Sit in its softness.
Let it hold you.
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A ritual for reclaiming space, energy, or emotional sovereignty
Intended Use: After boundary breaches, emotional leaks, or overstimulation
Length: ~3 min
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Imagine your body as a container.
Not a fortress.
A vessel.One with a bottom. A shape. An edge.
Feel into that edge—
where your body ends and the world begins.Ask: Where am I leaking?
Is it in your gut? Your jaw? Your chest?
Gently press one hand to that spot.
Say: “I call my energy back.”
Visualize your container sealing—
not shutting out the world,
just protecting what’s yours.Whisper:
“This is mine to hold. This is mine to keep.”Stay until you feel fuller.
Not overflowing. Just enough.